6 reasons why people commit suicide

by Alex Lickerman, MD

Though I’ve never lost a friend or family member to suicide, I have lost a patient.

I have known a number of people left behind by the suicide of people close to them, however. Given how much losing my patient affected me, I’ve only been able to guess at the devastation these people have experienced. Pain mixed with guilt, anger, and regret makes for a bitter drink, the taste of which I’ve seen take many months or even years to wash out of some mouths.

The one question everyone has asked without exception, that they ache to have answered more than any other, is simply, why?


Why did their friend, child, parent, spouse, or sibling take their own life? Even when a note explaining the reasons is found, lingering questions usually remain: yes, they felt enough despair to want to die, but why did they feel that? A person’s suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise (only accentuating survivor’s guilt for failing to see it coming).

People who’ve survived suicide attempts have reported wanting not so much to die as to stop living, a strange dichotomy but a valid one nevertheless. If some in-between state existed, some other alternative to death, I suspect many suicidal people would take it. For the sake of all those reading this who might have been left behind by someone’s suicide, I wanted to describe how I was trained to think about the reasons people kill themselves. They’re not as intuitive as most think.

In general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons:

1. They’re depressed. This is without question the most common reason people commit suicide. Severe depression is always accompanied by a pervasive sense of suffering as well as the belief that escape from it is hopeless. The pain of existence often becomes too much for severely depressed people to bear. The state of depression warps their thinking, allowing ideas like “Everyone would all be better off without me” to make rational sense. They shouldn’t be blamed for falling prey to such distorted thoughts any more than a heart patient should be blamed for experiencing chest pain: it’s simply the nature of their disease.

Because depression, as we all know, is almost always treatable, we should all seek to recognize its presence in our close friends and loved ones. Often people suffer with it silently, planning suicide without anyone ever knowing. Despite making both parties uncomfortable, inquiring directly about suicidal thoughts in my experience almost always yields an honest response. If you suspect someone might be depressed, don’t allow your tendency to deny the possibility of suicidal ideation prevent you from asking about it.

2. They’re psychotic. Malevolent inner voices often command self-destruction for unintelligible reasons. Psychosis is much harder to mask than depression — and arguably even more tragic. The worldwide incidence of schizophrenia is 1% and often strikes otherwise healthy, high-performing individuals, whose lives, though manageable with medication, never fulfill their original promise.

Schizophrenics are just as likely to talk freely about the voices commanding them to kill themselves as not, and also, in my experience, give honest answers about thoughts of suicide when asked directly. Psychosis, too, is treatable, and usually must be for a schizophrenic to be able to function at all. Untreated or poorly treated psychosis almost always requires hospital admission to a locked ward until the voices lose their commanding power.

3. They’re impulsive. Often related to drugs and alcohol, some people become maudlin and impulsively attempt to end their own lives. Once sobered and calmed, these people usually feel emphatically ashamed. The remorse is usually genuine, and whether or not they’ll ever attempt suicide again is unpredictable. They may try it again the very next time they become drunk or high, or never again in their lifetime. Hospital admission is therefore not usually indicated. Substance abuse and the underlying reasons for it are generally a greater concern in these people and should be addressed as aggressively as possible.

4. They’re crying out for help, and don’t know how else to get it. These people don’t usually want to die but do want to alert those around them that something is seriously wrong. They often don’t believe they will die, frequently choosing methods they don’t think can kill them in order to strike out at someone who’s hurt them—but are sometimes tragically misinformed. The prototypical example of this is a young teenage girl suffering genuine angst because of a relationship, either with a friend, boyfriend, or parent who swallows a bottle of Tylenol—not realizing that in high enough doses Tylenol causes irreversible liver damage.

I’ve watched more than one teenager die a horrible death in an ICU days after such an ingestion when remorse has already cured them of their desire to die and their true goal of alerting those close to them of their distress has been achieved.

5. They have a philosophical desire to die. The decision to commit suicide for some is based on a reasoned decision often motivated by the presence of a painful terminal illness from which little to no hope of reprieve exists. These people aren’t depressed, psychotic, maudlin, or crying out for help. They’re trying to take control of their destiny and alleviate their own suffering, which usually can only be done in death. They often look at their choice to commit suicide as a way to shorten a dying that will happen regardless. In my personal view, if such people are evaluated by a qualified professional who can reliably exclude the other possibilities for why suicide is desired, these people should be allowed to die at their own hands.

6. They’ve made a mistake. This is a recent, tragic phenomenon in which typically young people flirt with oxygen deprivation for the high it brings and simply go too far. The only defense against this, it seems to me, is education.

The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting. The apparent senselessness of suicide often fuels the most significant pain survivors feel. Thinking we all deal better with tragedy when we understand its underpinnings, I’ve offered the preceding paragraphs in hopes that anyone reading this who’s been left behind by a suicide might be able to more easily find a way to move on, to relinquish their guilt and anger, and find closure. Despite the abrupt way you may have been left, those don’t have to be the only two emotions you’re doomed to feel about the one who left you.

Alex Lickerman is an internal medicine physician at the University of Chicago who blogs at Happiness in this World.

Disaster and then Disease

By Elizabeth Batt

The International Federation of Red Cross and Red Crescent Societies, describes a natural disaster as a “sudden, calamitous event that seriously disrupts the functioning of a community or society and causes human, material, and economic or environmental losses that exceed the community’s or society’s ability to cope using its own resources.”

The earthquake in Haiti that occurred on January 12, 2010, caused death and destruction, the extent of which has yet to be realized. Sadly, Haiti’s problems might be only just beginning. Often following the initial aftermath of any natural disaster there follows a second wave of deaths, caused by disease.

Types of Disease Prevalent in the Aftermath of a Natural Disaster
When a natural disaster strikes to the extent that it did in Haiti, the infrastructure of a country is decimated. Fresh water supplies, sewage disposal and power is destroyed or severely interrupted. What remains is often contaminated, initiating a vicious cycle that cultivates communicable diseases. In a third world country like Haiti, where resources are already stretched thin and immunizations are not standard practice, the loss of life is certain to be much higher because they’re simply not equipped to deal with an incident of this magnitude.

The study, “Management of dead bodies in disaster situations.” PAHO; 2004, indicates that little threat for communicative disease outbreak is posed by actual human remains. The threat comes from the survivors themselves, the destruction of their surroundings and an inevitable crowding situation caused by displacement. Without a continuous fresh water supply, survivors are forced to drink polluted water just to stay alive. Aided by the lack of adequate sanitary conditions, these pollutants are ingested and then defecated back into the water source. It becomes a breeding ground for communicable diseases.

Water-related Diseases
Water-related diseases include infectious diarrhea or norovirus, salmonella and cholera. Noroviruses are transmitted through the fecal-oral route after the ingestion of contaminated food and water. Once infected, a person-to-person transmission can occur. Noroviruses cause diarrhea and vomiting that without adequate sanitization amenities, continue to perpetuate.

Salmonella is often referred to as food poisoning. It causes the same symptoms as norovirus and can be present in almost any type of food. Salmonella is transmitted through infected feces that come into contact with a food source. People can become carriers of salmonella, transmitting the disease for life.

Cholera, transmitted by the fecal-oral route has an extremely brief incubation period of just 2-5 days. It can cause acute diarrhea, dehydration and kidney failure. Of all water-related diseases, cholera is perhaps the most insidious and can kill an adult within hours.

Crowding-related Diseases
The three most common crowding-related diseases are meningitis, measles and acute respiratory failure (ARF). Meningitis causes an inflammation of the membranes surrounding the brain and spinal cord and can lead to permanent neurological damage. Measles is a highly contagious viral disease that can cause seizures and coma. The complications of measles can include blindness and brain inflammation. ARF has a high morbidity rate of 50-70% in both children and adults. Caused by inadequate gas exchange, oxygen levels drop and carbon dioxide levels rise. An effect of displacement, over-crowding issues and poor nutrition, ARF is a major cause of death.

Vectorborne Diseases
Vectorborne diseases are caused by “vectors” such as mosquitoes that carry malaria. Earthquakes and other natural disasters can change a habitat, as evidenced in Saenz R, Bissell RA, Paniagua F. "Post-disaster malaria in Costa Rica." Prehospital Disaster Med. 1995;10:154–60. This change in habitat can create conditions that are ripe for breeding, causing an upsurge in outbreaks of malaria. Children are particularly at risk of contracting malaria, a virus that in its most dangerous form, can affect the brain and kidneys. Dengue, also carried by mosquitoes, can develop into dengue haemorrhagic fever. The spread of dengue can be directly related to inadequate solid waste disposal and water storage. Without treatment, fatality rates can exceed 20%.

Haiti's challenges are far from over and despite aid being sent to this ravaged country, the death toll as it stands now, is certain to rise.

Teen Suicide Risk Factors: Parents Are Too Often Clueless

By Nancy Shute

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among teenagers, and it's a tragedy that can be prevented. Given that almost 15 percent of high school students say they've seriously considered suicide in the past year, parents and friends need to know how to recognize when a teenager is in trouble and how to help.

Parents can be clueless when it comes to recognizing suicide risk factors, or at least more clueless than teens. In a new survey of teenagers and parents in Chicago and in the Kansas City, Kan., area, which appears online in Pediatrics, both parents and teenagers said that teen suicide was a problem, but not in their community. Alas, teen suicide is a universal problem; no area is immune.

The teenagers correctly said that drug and alcohol use was a big risk factor for suicide, with some even noting that drinking and drug use could be a form of self-medication or self-harm. By contrast, many of the parents shrugged off substance abuse as acceptable adolescent behavior. As one parent told the researchers: "Some parents smoke pot with their kids or allow their kids to drink."

Both teenagers and parents said that guns should be kept away from a suicidal teen. But since parents said they didn't think they could determine when a teenager was suicidal, parents should routinely lock up firearms, the researchers suggest. That makes sense. Firearms are used in 43.1 percent of teen suicides, according to 2006 data, while suffocation or hanging accounts for 44.9 percent.

The good news: Both parents and teenagers in this small survey (66 teenagers and 30 parents) said they'd like more help learning how to know when someone is at risk of committing suicide and what to do. Schools and pediatricians should be able to help, but we can all become better educated through reliable resources on the Web. These authoritative sites list typical signs of suicide risk, and they also provide questions a parent or a friend can ask a teenager to find out if he is considering killing himself. Here are good places to start:

The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry lists signs and symptoms of suicidal thinking, such as saying things like "I won't be a problem for you much longer."

The American Academy of Pediatrics urges parents to ask the child directly about suicide. "Getting the word out in the open may help your teenager think someone has heard his cries for help."

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides free advice to someone considering suicide, as well as to friends and relatives, at 800-273-TALK.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness's teenage suicide page makes the point that talking with someone about suicide will not "give them the idea." "Bringing up the question of suicide and discussing it without showing shock or disapproval is one of the most helpful things you can do," the NAMI site says. "This openness shows that you are taking the individual seriously and responding to the severity of his or her distress."